by Mark Entzminger/ September 30, 2019
This article is the third in a series of four designed to help establish a foundation that will help any children’s ministry stand the test of time. The first two anchors are:
Watch Me Grow pointed to this article as part of the solution to how we “Pastor Kids Relationally.”
Our western culture of privacy and seclusion has removed many of the benefits of raising children with intentional partnership with other godly adults. We might be together with other parents and families from time to time, but the “trophy child” syndrome creates more competition than it does community.
So how can children’s ministry leaders find ways to pastor kids relationally? The answer is simple, but the strategy takes some work. Church leaders must build a team by investing in the home and investing in leaders.
This is a long-term strategy and works best when the whole church is on board. It is difficult for the children’s pastors to have much influence in shaping the home when they have the least amount of face time with the parent. As a result, the following questions might be discussed as a pastoral team.
You see, investing in the home starts first with a strategy for creating strong marriages, not just creating better parents.
A strong, Christ-centered marriage is the best place for faith to be nurtured in children. A healthy marriage will naturally increase the effectiveness of the spiritual parenting, but a focus on parenting does not have the same kind of impact on the marriage.
What does this mean?
Children’s ministry done by one person is nearly impossible. However, it can be done when there are very few children. All it takes, though, is one service with a new family “checking out” your church to suddenly be overwhelmed with responsibility and chaos.
To help grow your team, some perspectives must be maintained by the church leadership:
One may argue the statement, “It takes a village to raise a child.” But the truth is—a children’s ministry without strong team values with the home and with the leaders will not stand the test of time.